Every once in a while at one of my locals a young man and his small son come in together. The young man is not so tall, but slender, with close cut blondish hair, and he usually is wearing a blue jacket and jeans. His son is not so tall, but slender, with close cut blondish hair, and he too is usually wearing a blue jacket and jeans. The young man leaves his son to order their drinks, and the son searches for a place to sit. The play continues.
The son finds an acceptable spot in one of the armchairs that are scattered around the room. There is another such chair across from him and one beside him. The father comes with drinks in hand and frowns at the choice of seating his son has made. He takes the drinks to a table with two chairs and gestures to his son to come to him. Son does not move. Father repeats the gesture, still standing. Son does not move. It is a sit/stand-off. Will the winner be the big guy or the little guy?
Big guy walks over and sits the the chair next to little guy. The proceed to have what appears to be a happy conversation over their drinks, clearly enjoying each other’s company as they sip.
I have watched the scene play out several times, always with the same result. I find myself smiling each time, at the same time wondering what lessons are being learned by the father and by the son. I would very much like to see their interplay twenty or thirty years on. Will they both still be wearing blue? Who will defer to whom? Who will be the big guy, then? Who is, now?